I'm covering the nine things I wish I’d known about death and loss before Abi died. These are the research-informed (but hugely practical) pieces of wisdom that we see transform our students’ approach to grief over and over.

Lucy challenges the conventional wisdom around the stages of grief, offering a deeply personal and scientifically backed perspective that grief is as individual as a fingerprint, not a series of uniform stages.

In 2014, just four weeks after the tragic loss of our daughter, I began writing as a way to express the profound grief, and, looking back, I realise that sharing my story not only helped me process the pain, but also empowered me, highlighting the transformative impact of narrative on the journey through grief.